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Tuesday, November 17, 2009

Long Distance Relationships

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I still remembered my first long distance relationship (LDR) which started around 9 to 10 years ago.

It started with a cordial chat, through mIRC, with a person who are from the land which formerly known as Temasek. “Pelangi Petang”, sung by the late Sudirman Haji Arshad, brought back the memories. Mind you, even our LDR did not last long, but it is long enough for me to understand the meaning of love, kindness, patience and despair. Not forgetting the experience of having a person occupying your heart throughout the ordeal.

After that, my love life wandered like the small soap bubbles in the sink – circling into the vortex which eventually will be drained out through that darn pipe. Having a network of close friends during those years somewhat occupy the void feeling I had then.

Through this, I would like to send a thousand loves and kisses to my friends from Bigboyz (formerly known as MyChub). Without the emotional supports from you guys, my world will be as dark and lonely as I would ever imagined.

Life goes on…

I followed my heart which landed me back to the Land of the Hornbills. If not, this would be my second LDR. The life pace here is totally the opposite of what I had back in KL. But I was determined, committed with what I have chose and was happy of it. Period.

Until,… something, somewhere, the relationship started to aged over time. We became duller and further apart. And it ended with a reminder that no matter how you chose or took to sustain a relationship, LDR or non-LDR, you are and always be an outsider in other’s family’s niche.

We finally parted with a mutual agreement. Though we are not together anymore, there is still a bond which reminded who we are before and after a long relationship.

Second stage…

I am back to my hometown, and prepared for any circumstances that comes along the way. Or it was my first thought… Getting laid here is rather easy. Hik. But getting someone to fill your heart is a challenge.

And as a single happy-go-lucky person in this town, I cannot avoid of the love-hate lonely feeling that keep haunting me all these time…

I started from a scratch here,.. and (maybe) I have met someone… and it is another LDR all over again…

Arghhhhhh!

10 comments:

tok_chik said...

bro, share with me who the unlucky guy this time.....hahahahahaaaaaa

Unknown said...

ewah ewah....
I didn't know bigboys was mychubs...
I thought totally separate group huhu...
Anyway...
If want the LOVE...
and you can't get over any obstancles...
then its not LOVE..
aduih bengang bengang

GraFiQuE said...

ehek...

tok_chik: biorlah rahsia... komporm pon tak pasti ney...

budak bengang: yes, Bigboyz was a part of the original MyChub, which then separated into it's own official BigBoyz Malaysia. MyChub was eventually closed for good. An attempt to revive MyChub was made through the forming of MyChubs. However, Bigboyz remain present to this day as BigboyzMalaysia, as it own entity. Tribute was made to the members of Bigboyz becoz most of them originally are the backbone of the original MyChub. Like it or not, most of our friends (most of!) belongs to both groups.Enuff said.

StraDeGee (My Jae) said...

Being in love and falling in love is just like snow flakes falling from teh cold sky....once it reaches the ground it will builds up into small snow ball.
However, its cold and will melt someday.

LDR is like a journey which requires patience, trust and lots of honesty. It is painful being away and missing someone we love.

It even hurts badly when the person we love cheat and betray our trust just for a moment of folly.

Though, its like a cycle full of ups and downs, love and LDR requires two parties to appreciate one another.

Kudos to those who succeed.

bozzobattousai said...

9-10 tahun dulu kita duk satu bilik kat 5th...apasal aku tak tau pun citer ldr ko nih?

GraFiQuE said...

StraDeGee (My Jae): Kudos to you too... ahaks.

bozzobattousai: ehek, kisah kita berdua 11-15 tahun lepas. Tak bertindih.. jeng jeng jeng.

Unknown said...

kabar bro!lama tak dengar citer?

Anonymous said...

sememangnya paham apa d padah tapi sik mengerti apa yang tersirat.........huhuhuhuuu......

GraFiQuE said...

Ameer: waaaaa long taim no sea... ehek, baru beberapa hari lepas terkontek si si Awie... apa citer ko skrg?

anonymous... ahaks.. panjang citer nyer, dear!

Unknown said...

aku ok jer,hang masuk ler blog aku.www.fromkodiangtonilai.blogspot.com. aku dah kahwin skrg ni...